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bipolarbearV · May 23, 2010, 02:46 PM

I do think you should get some therapy. You say your husband still loves you. Well when I divorced 10 years ago from an electrical engineer, I went from a dream home and all the goodies to barely having an apt. and food to eat. Do not give up on your husband. I believe there are ways to revive it. Also ask yourself where your FWB would go if he became your FWOB? Would he stay around? Believe me poverty is very humbling and just becasuse you are divorced does not mean that you will revert to your old self, even with your friend. Poverty is mind numbing and humiliating. I don't think sex can cover the loss of self that comes with it. When you go in the store with your food stamps, the check out lady thinks it's her responsiblity to refuse to ring up non-neccities like birthday cakes, soda and other stuff that she thinks is frivolous. You get left accidentally on purpose waiting for services like Drs, that you never had to wait for before. Or worse yet your old set of great Drs won't take medicaid so you end up with another Dr who was last in his class. It is mind numbing all the ways that society has to 'punish' you for just being poor or as they see it, lazy. I got speaches from my best friend about how SHE WORKED and (unsaid) because I was a stay at home MOM I sure didn't deserve any disability!! People will make economic political conversation and then look at you and smile/sneer. Are you getting the photo op here? He ain't worth it! INHO he allows you the luxury of talking and doing other neat fun stuff, just so he can have sex. But what I found out from my marriage is that EVERYTHING comes down to the SEX. No sex no more FWB?

Now, I've never met you or this guy and I apologize if I am not accurate about him. My post is just what I have learned or obvserved in my life. I only want you to think.

You said you have bad insurance. Is there a women's center or mental health clinic in your town? They can see you and put you on a sliding scale and carry balances as long as you keep making payments. Sometimes they can give you free pills or get you on programs offered by the drug companies for free pills. I am happy for you that you are happier than you have been in a long time but think of the future (retirement) and use your head. Sorry for being so blunt.

One thing that helps me stay happy is to Look for the Laughter.

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