(((((( Jexa )))))))

1) Take a deep breath and give yourself a big hug. You have come a LONG way and you CAN make it through this life lesson.

2) It is NEVER EVER wrong to do what is in your best interests when it comes to self-healing.

3) Be honest with your new friend about what is going on. You do not have to give personal details, but you can be firm and set your boundaries. That is something that survivors of abuse have to learn HOW to do. You had your boundaries stepped on and trampled. But now is the time you can take back your power and learn how to set those boundaries in place.

If I were in your shoes, I would call the guy up and just have an honest conversation in general words. Something like "Hi there. I just wanted to let you know that I really did enjoy your company the other night. But I am at the point in my life where I am doing some serious self-care. A big part of that for me is learning how to set up my own personal boundaries in a safe way. So there are some things about what happened the other night that I need to go over with you when I see you again. Speaking of which, I am available on xxxx at xxxx time. If you would like to join me for xxxx , I would welcome your company and it would give us a chance to talk this over."

Big hugs to you!!!!!!