Sometimes when we start off life trying to establish our self-confidence, we do tend to apologize a lot. Think some training when we are young was to say we were sorry for things that we did wrong......but overdoing it then becomes a habit......habits are so hard to break as we have to be aware that it's a habit before we realize there is an issue.......as Lynn & Seeker said....it's being mindful of what we are saying & hearing what we say & stopping it from coming out before the word flows out the mouth.
I know that when I was young, I realized that I was saying "sorry" for things that there was no need to be sorry for.
My favorite movie "Anne of Green Gables" had a line in it that I absolutely loved when she was forced to apologize for something she wasn't really sorry for (being aware of whether we really are sorry for something is also important). She had blown up at a nosy neighbor lady & was sent to her room & told she couldn't come out until she apologized. The uncle came in & told her to put the apology into words that she could honestly say which came out something like this (can't remember exactly)"I am sorry that you said what you said that caused me to say what I said" that way she was showing that she wasn't taking complete blame for the situation, but making it into apology appeased the other person & they heard it as an apology more than hearing the actual words that were being said. That taught me a lot about how to apologize honestly.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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