Hello, kkfk. I am more cynical. My thought is to ask your friend to see a therapist and maybe do joint counseling. If he refuses to see a therapist, I see problems ahead. Does he talk to you? There have been many threads here discussing how to deal with an unemotional mate who will not talk and show affection. Most from women who feel alone in their own home.

I also think you should make it clear how important showing affection is to you. He needs to realize that he can choose to change his behavior. He is not locked into the past.

To frequently feel rejected is not my idea of a loving relationship.