Oh, don't worry about T winning; they're the ones who are "stuck" since we have to come to them and they only have so many hours at certain times, and have to sit in that same room, etc. :-)

They have been doing therapy for a job for X years and people are people, it's just the individual who changes, not the sorts of problems they have or how Ts have learned to approach them. How T does things is how it works for T and if we want T to help us, we have to do things the way they know. Might be a different way than we think we'd like to do things but they've done it that way before and know it works where our way of doing things doesn't seem to? :-)