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Old May 24, 2010, 06:58 PM
fieldofdreams fieldofdreams is offline
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It's true that a lot of therapy time is often spent dealing with the relationship, but that's not necessarily the same as dealing with therapist issues. The relationship itself IS a big part of the treatment, so it does command a lot of time and attention. I think the hardest part, which made me feel very uncertain about this whole process for quite some time, is that I often believed it was my T whose issues were getting in the way when in reality I had so many defenses and projections and so much negative transference it was impossible for me to recognize that the issues I thought were his were actually my own.
Now, that's not to say there's no bad therapy out there. There is a LOT of bad therapy out there, and sometimes it's very hard to tell if that's the situation you are in or not. Good therapy can sometimes FEEL very bad... while bad therapy can sometimes feel very good.
Somehow I don't think I'm being very helpful here... but yes, in the past I have felt at times that I needed therapy because of therapy. But that's no longer the case because my T has broken through a lot of my defenses and I have, for the most part, relegated control of the process to him. I figure if I'm going to ask a professional for help, I might as well stop insisting that he do things MY way because if my way had been working out so well I wouldn't have needed help to begin with.
Thanks for this!
REEG