@Sannah - it was a picture of a building, from Google street view, not even sure if it was the right building since I've never been there. The provoking element - for both of us - was the idea of a boundary violation by meeting for lunch on a Saturday. Yes, I thought he would find it provoking, and it was scary to consider showing it to him for that reason (what if he had said YES??!! ).
At this point, I have no feedback from him that he really was provoked (beyond the look on his face) or that this item led him to re-evaluate his internal discomfort with the seating. Stay tuned: I may be completely off base, it may have been something else!

@Echoes - yeah, we are not done. We've did some good email on Friday. We will meet in early June to discuss.

@WePow - I think I am working thru to admitting that I'm ready to try someone new. I do know that I can meet with my T again, rebuild and continue OR go thru stuff and have a friendly termination. This never seemed possible before - tried a break in the fall, tried a break in the winter - was not comfortable.
1) I'm not panicky or distraught at the idea of terminating - it's OK now.
2) When he suggested a break, I did not have the usual rejection-related adrenaline rush.
Big Shift is this - 3) I recently had to select a child psychologist for my son - I did the interviews over the phone and made a selection. So, now I know how to do it for myself. Previously I asked my T to refer me to a woman T that he knew personally, and he did not know anyone with availability, and I could not imagine going to a stranger.
Also, I'm in a very consistent, stable situation at work right now so I can take a risk of changing something outside of work.
Metaphor: I don't really want to rebuild the bridge in the spot where it gets washed out every few months. I need to move to higher ground, maybe with a different construction co.

thanks all