Parenting an adult adolescent sucks. My 26 year old son has only held a couple legal jobs in his life. He spends his time smoking weed, playing music (he is a talented musician), and day dreaming fantasy careers. He earns his way by music lessons and... He has had a couple amazing opportunities that have fizzled most likely due to his being a stoner. I wait, and wait for "the phone call" where I find out he is in hospital, prison, or the morgue. I think he limits himself to pot, but don't really know. It could be anything. This has been eating my soul since he left home 10 years ago. I used to worry at least once every few minutes. Now it is a few times a day. Any suggestions how to cope would be appreciated.

He has been unofficially diagnosed as having untreated ADHD of a serious and impairing magnitude. This was by trained mental health professionals he knows as my personal friends. He refuses to believe it. He could possibly get disability, but refuses to seek any professional's assistance.