It is ironic I came across this thread just as I was going to start a thread called "missing my previous t"....

I had two t's for a good 8 months. I was having trouble in in person therapy so I "hired" an online t as well....my online t helped me to deal with interacting with my in person t...and my in person t helped me to deal with my "issues". I felt guilty about not telling in person t about online t - and finally told her after about 6 months. She felt hurt and betrayed and wasn't going to keep seeing me. I finally got her to let me stay (with conditions) but the relationship was never the same. She didn't "trust" me after that. Yes...the t didn't trust ME....vs ME not trusting the t....the reverse situation of normal!

My online t told me I had nothing to feel guilty about - people see t's for couples therapy, different t's for individual therapy, doctors for meds....ie lots of different professionals. My online t talked about the issue of "confusion" with multiple t's and just recommended if one said something that directly conflicted the other, it would be in my best interest to let the other t know of the conflicting opinions so it could be discussed.

All that said, because I felt the in person t relationship never recovered from my "betrayal" by seeing and revealing I had an online t, I ended that in person t relationship. Personally, I wish I had never told in person t the truth...because having two t's gave me the support I needed. And as I started out saying, I really really miss my in person t. I wish I had not destroyed that relationship. I still have my online t - and that t continues to help me and is extremely important in my life, but online t can't replace what I got from having a second, other t. (And I am not referring to the online vs in person factor here because that became a non-issue).

I guess if I was going to give advice, I would say ....I'm not sure. Tell or don't tell? I don't want to relate it to "having an affair when you are married" and telling or not telling....all I can do is share my experience. I hope it helped in some way.