haven't posted in awhile, but Zoo, I used to do this all the time. I could never just call and ask him to leave a message that i could listen to, what if he said "No", can't handle the rejection, but i would call and not answer just for the same reason. To be able to hear his voice and like you said depending what he said, to be able to keep the message and listen to it later made me feel connected when i felt unconnected.... hope this makes sense