((((Michelle))))

Thank you for sharing and I am so glad that you got to spend time with her too. It is so important that the others are listened to and believed. For they hold things that many times we are unaware of for a long time for that is why we separated to begin with. They have done things for us that no one else could do. They endured things we could not at a time when it was not safe to be who we were.

I think it is so special that you respect her and listen to her. For that is so important and sometimes is all that is needed. I wish sometimes that some one had listened to those within instead of retraumatizing them. Sometimes others do not get it but they are real for us and they did what we could not to get us to where we are today. They have feelings and thoughts and need to be heard in order to grow and change.

Your willingness to listen means so much. I know that those within myself need to be heard and need to know that they are believed. For so long no one would listen or believe. There was no safety and the abuse continued in so many different ways. Not until three and a half years ago did anyone outside of therapy listen and believe. It was hard to allow them to step forth in fear of re-traumatizing them as they had already been through so much not only when we grew up but throughout life.

Thank you for caring about your partners others within. And thank you for sharing. It touched my heart and many of those within myself. We are so blessed to have someone in our life that believes and listen to those within ourself. It has allowed for healing to start taking place and for trust to begin to bulid where trust never was. It has also allowed us to begin to work together and to listen to those within ourselves in working through things and facing things.

Sometimes all it takes is one person to care and to risk reaching out. I know for me and those within the person that reached out to us started the possible journey to healing that we had almost lost hope of having. Because our friend cared we have been able to reach within and listen for in being heard without it has opened the doors within to begin to have that co-consciousness and collaberation we needed to start being able to heal within.

I think you are a wonderful person and support for your partner and for many here too. Thank you Michelle for caring and for sharing the many things you have brought here and for the hope that you are sharing with many here. Know that you are cared about and appreciated. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps