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Old May 26, 2010, 08:23 AM
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Originally Posted by googley View Post
I'm scared I'm going to loose my T. I am having to go down to once a month sessions because of money. I'll be seeing someone from the school clinic also. I'm afraid I'm never going to have the money to go back to seeing my T more often, and then she will drop me. I don't want to loose my T. And I feel like we haven't had enough time to talk about this. And I still feel like there are so many things that we left hanging open. I don't know if I am going to be able to go back to them when I am seeing her monthly. And I don't know if I am going to be able to open up to the new T about anything sensitive since it takes me so long to work to trust a new T. I just feel like a mess.

Hi Googley,

First off, . You sound like a bundle of nerves right now. Understandable. I would be too.

My first thought after "Oh, poor Googley!" is that it sounds like you may be jumping to worst case scenarios in your mind, which is scaring you even more. Why would your t would drop you just because you're seeing her once per month? Unless she has given you some reason to think that she would drop you, i would say don't worry about it. Or, if you can't stop worrying about it, ask her directly if seeing her less often would lessen her commitment to working with you? I'm sure it won't.

If this decision to go monthly was rather sudden, i can understand why things feel "hanging open" and unresolved. It sounds like you're wondering if once monthly sessions will enable you to continue working on the issues you've been working on with your t. Could you tell her that in order to feel comfortable about this change, you need her to explain to you how this change in frequency of sessions will affect your therapy? How will you proceed with regard to your issues? etc? It sounds like you need to know what to expect and/or how things will change. Change is hard for me, and if i were you, I would need more information also, so i would know what to expect.