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Ugh, it's so awful when T says something that hurts us.

A while back, my T said something so hurtful that my husband said he must have hit his head or something, because it made NO sense that he would say it. I really just wanted to quit therapy. I was SO angry and confused.

I forced myself to go back and talk about it (after leaving him a message and letting him know how hurt and angry I was). And in the process of talking about it, I realized that T had made a mistake, and it was my choice to forgive or not to forgive. When I thought about the entire context of our relationship - years of working together and building trust, years of T saying just the RIGHT thing - I realized that as hurtful and stupid as it was, T had made a mistake. When I was able to put it in the perspective of the big picture, I was able to accept T's apology, forgive, and move on.

It is absolutely okay to feel however you feel about what T said. Sad, angry, hurt, confused...whatever. However you feel is right. And it's okay to let T know how you feel. All of that is okay.

Hugs and hugs to you. It's awful when T's screw up.