I feel fortunate because I like logic and truth. So, I first look at something to see if it's true (I made up a saying for myself, "What's true is true whether you like it or not" :-) and then I look at how I feel about the person saying it. My T occasionally made some really really hard things for me to hear ("Not if you do what you usually do!") and, now, I am grateful because they were more likely to impact me and get me to go in a better direction for me.