Sorry to take so long to get back to this.

I realized that I was setting up a false problem. Of course I can live in a community and also be part of a partner-relationship if one turns up. I'm not thinking of joining a celibate community!! So there's actually no need to make a choice.

Yes, I do have a community (just forming) that I'm thinking of joining. I'm also on the waiting list at another co-housing community, and so I participate in stuff over there, know the folks, the dynamics, etc. (And they get married, get divorced, bring partners in, and so on.)

Community living does take a lot of effort. But I think that with the right group, it's probably worth it.

So I'm probably going to continue exploring with my new group. It will probably take a year or more for the planning process to finish, and no one will be moving in for another year or so. (It's already been going on for a while.)

And so on.

Thanks, everyone.

-Far