to be honest, moosetracks, i find your style of posting to be confrontational and more than a little triggering. i respect that you are taking what you feel is a necessary stance, but i wonder if there are ways which are less accusatory in voicing your opinion. i'm not saying this to hurt you or to quiet you; i'm just making a request that perhaps we can ALL be mindful that there are many survivors/victims of abuse on these boards, and that sarcasm, blame and ridicule aren't supportive ways of getting what you feel is a valid point across. many of us here are at different stages of our healing. many of us still feel somewhat protective of those who abused us also. being told that it's people like us who make it unsafe for the rest of "you" (whoever "you" are?) feels to me like another form of blaming the victim.

again, i'll say that i've been triggered. i know my own issues are coming up from your style of posting. i dont know if what i'm saying is objectively valid, i'm just expressing how i feel. and right now i feel scared to say anything on these string of threads because i worry you will turn it around and make it out like "deli is just as bad as the abusers because she isn't being hardcore like moosetracks". i feel like you're appointing yourself as an arbiter of the community rules, and also feel like you'd rather that victims of abuse (who have never been offenders) don't post here unless they agree with your opinion.

this might be a silly suggestion - but - maybe now that this thread has been reported to the mods, we can let it sit until one of the team gets back to us and clarifies the rules?