I'm really sorry for the rupture. As Treehouse indicated, every single rupture I have ever had with my T has ended up being a really good thing (believe it or not).

They've ended up reinforcing that, no matter what transpires, the relationship between us is strong enough to talk it out, make sure each side is heard, and the relationship is strong enough to survive it. A disagreement, hurt feelings and disappointment can be dealt with and nothing gets derailed.

IMO, if you took your T out of the equation that might undermine that it is actually you and your T working through this.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that your T is the person that actually did this and may be totally wrong in their actions. They certainly can let us down, but that may be okay. But both of you may need to present to reach that okay-ness.

Peace to you during this upheaval.