UPDATE: thought all was going well for a few days until the world came crashing down around me. My 11 y/o lied about having homework last thursday saying "dont you guys trust me yet?" so then he got in trouble at school and of course got grounded. Then while grounded this weekend he told us that he had already done his science project, which he hadnt so then double grounded. THEN the day after my mother in law took her chemo he stole her phone and took it to school with him so she was unable to call while sick. So probably grounded to his room copying the dictionary for 6 weeks. Or 50 years. Then the 3 year old was so bad for the hour that he was home with my mother in law that when we got home the house was turned upside down and she was in tears. I just started the stickers and so far the 3 y/o earned one out of 5 days and the 11 y/o hasnt earned any. ARG!!! They are going to drive me insanse. And the worst part is we are going to Sea World this weekend and have already paid for the trip so its not like we can cancel because they are being bad. Why would my son do such hurtful things like lie to me about everything and steal from his memaw when she is sick? And the other one too.