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I don't think it's "one little thing", dear one.
That is a big thing. (IMO)

Seems your dad had some issues with "power trips". doing things to others made him feel powerful-- guess he didn't feel that way on his own. It was cruel and I don't understand either how some can be that way..... lack of empathy mixed with extremely low self-esteem, maybe

You are a treasure, I hope you realize that.
(and you don't mind me sayin so)

fins