Hi and welcome.
I am a girl who as my most current ex-boyfriend called "too emotionally needy" and that is the reason he broke up with me. Basically I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years and I finally left him, afterwards I began sleeping around, which I never dreamed of doing before, for some odd reason to relive my pain. The sleeping around didn't help at all and eventually I was raped. I have since had issues with having sex after being raped, as soon as I begin to feel good, I will begin to cry or I will have to tell them to stop. I broke up with my 1st boyfriend after the rape because I didn't want to have sex and I didn't want to burden him with my pain. I then met a wonderful guy, who encouraged me to tell him what happened and got me into therapy. As we continued our relationship, I had many "breakdowns" as he called them and he said he loved me but didn't know how to handle it. Any how, when I had sex with him it was the same. I don't think she's doing it because of you, and as hard as I tried to love my boyfriend I kept pushing him away because I didn't feel I deserved the support he was offering. The thing is I didn't TRY to do that, afterwards it's like WHY do I keep doing this!!! It's almost like something takes over my emotions and actions. This is my story and I hope it helps