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My T usually sends me e-mails that say "I'm here" too. But I don't think that means that he doesn't care, and I don't think that it means that your T doesn't care either. I know that my T is very very very busy with his life outside of the office, and even though he cares about me, we have a client/T relationship and that isn't like any other relationship.

The boundaries can be difficult for sure, especially when we need help because we're suffering in some way. I think what finally made me come to a place of peace regarding the boundaries is this: T and I have a totally unique relationship, unlike ANY other relationship. It's not parent/child, brother/sister, friend, lover...it's T/client. He can hold my deepest secrets and no one else can. He is totally focused on ME when we are together, in a way no one else would be. His only goal is to help me heal.

When I think about the T/client relationship in that way, it makes the boundaries a little easier for me. I do know how much they suck. My T is 100% unavailable on the weekends, and sometimes it feels like this weird abyss. But I wouldn't trade the boundaries, because they keep me safe.

I don't know if that helps. If not, toss it! and just accept this: