Sweety, grief just sucks. My Mum died two and a half years ago and I've found that grief is not a linear process that just plods along at a certain pace and I can get from HERE to THERE with certainty. Grief can be triggered, or seemingly not even triggered at all, then it just comes blindingly at you from the side.

If other people are also bumbling through their grief, they may unwhittingly trigger your grief, which may have been just under the surface ready to be set off.

The loss of a sibling is a HUGE thing. It's cool that your emotions are all over the place - these are intense experiences that our systems are dealing with. And we don't always take the steps which in retrospect, we would have preferred, so maybe hold off on speaking to the woman who posted, for a time when you can frame your grief in a way you'll be more happy with.

But keep coming here and venting, talking, expressing - just keep coming!!