Hi Junerian---I feel the need to answer you on my own behalf.

I ne'er had the ability to feel Anger first---abused before memory-- learned "helplessness".

My mom always said that under everyone's anger; there is pain and hurt first.

That is what I have always felt.

I don't go to anger. I get hurt--go to avoidance.

I do not believe in "Forgiveness"---those who've hurt me are without conscience- therefore sociopaths, highly functional ones at that. I am sorry for them--they are ill, not I. I even pray for them.

I believe in trying to go through my hurt, and coming out the other side.
I am older, and wiser now; 40 years of therapy, etc.. has taught me much.

I avoid cruel people.

I want to "eliminate the negative" aspects of my life and live NOW.--Be well--theo