It is kind of hard to write about a subject and be so delicate...yet...still get messages across for me but I like sex....maybe the reason I like it is I do NOT think of anything...I feel what is being done....it doesnt mattter who does it......I BECOME that body part and sensation so I am thinking maybe thats a form of dissociating? I do not go for the gooey swoony lovely dovey junk......just get to the foreplay and um the big bang and I am done....I can even skip the kissing