Like everyone, you have certain preconceptions you have taken into this relationship. Personally, I don't agree with them. Now that doesn't make them wrong, but perhaps you might take another look at them. For instance, you said, "I have always said you know a person by his past by the amount of friends he still has from his past especially if there friends from when he was a kid."

I don't collect friends, I have very few, but I can count of them unequivocally and would give my life for any of them. None of them are from my childhood.

You've also said, "I want my man to be a man..."

What is a man? In todays world more than at any time in history the definition of 'what being a man' means is unraveling. Perhaps his concept of what being a man is different; have you asked him? For instance, you said, "...when I am angry with him I will ask him to leave but he won't..." If you are interested in ending the relationship, why is it that you don't leave? It seems that you have an expectation that the man should leave if the relationship is not working; you are free to do so as well.

I don't know if the relationship is worth saving; no one here will. Too, we only hear one side of the story and while I am not doubting that you are accurately explaining the situation exactly as you see it, he might see it entirely different. It sounds to me like the two of you need more communication and less blaming, as well as some counseling if this has a chance.

Good luck to you.