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Originally Posted by AAAAA
I have no idea where they plan on taking this with you other than a genuine attempt to get to the source of your problem. I’ve seen the show, and it seems to be a large dose of tough love given with respect. In the shows I’ve seen, they seem to want to let the public know what an impact this disease can have on your life.
It’s “natural” not to want a stranger to enter your home when it’s not at its best, but in theory or family should love and respect us no matter what. The family portion of the program, in my opinion, is to show that this disease can alienate even those people that love us the most. The last one that I saw the couple’s adult children had not been to their home for 10 years. Only one of the couple’s combined 5 children was willing to enter the house before and during the purge. They mentioned that the other children were unwilling to come, but it wasn’t done in a way that was disrespectful, just informative, not Jerry Springerish at all.
Could any of this anger and anxiety be related to the fact that you’re going to have to face this hording issue head on? Often it’s easier to direct the anger outward and accept that you’re angry with yourself?
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My family alienated me before the clutter was bad. I asked my son this evening when was the last time he could recall that my mom or sisters have come to visit us and neither of us could remember when. My dad and brother have been down but not my mom and sisters. When my mom and sisters moved into a new house in 2000 they did not even call me to tell me they had moved nor to give me their new telephone number. I knew they were in the process of building a new house but did not know it would be ready that soon. My cousin told me they had moved; I don't think my family wants me around much. I don't fit in with them. My youngest sister has been disrespectful for as long as I can remember. Not just to me but to everybody. Nobody wants to be around her because she is an unhappy, angry person. She is aggressive and demanding and bossy. My mother is passive aggressive. My other sister is dependent because she is scared to drive, scared to try new things. When my sister was in college she came home every single weekend. Never ever spent a weekend in college socializing. My step dad was dead and I think my mom was (is) afraid to be by herself and she has encouraged them to stay with her at the cost of them having husbands and children of their own. I know I have my own emotional problems and I acknowledge those but my mom/sisters are a dysfunctional, codependent mess and they do not grasp that and they don't try to solve their problems.
I have had conversations with four people at Discovery and it went well with three but the one doesn't seem to listen/understand or maybe she just doesn't care. I know that they want to make the show interesting and if there is drama they want to film it but I have other people that they can bring on the show like my exhusband and my son's friends and I trust them not to intentionally humiliate us. My pickle butt sister though doesn't care about my best interests. I have known that for a long time.
Indeed I do have more anxiety as I think about exposing myself but I think there is some possible gain to be had. It really is not so much about what Discovery does because they are just there to document the reality as it is. The real help will depend on the quality of the therapist and the professional organizer.