If your needs are not being met by your husband, or he doesn't know what your needs are, GO TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. If he can't or won't attempt to meet your needs, then make the decision to move on.

Just because you are bored or in pain, doesn't give you the right to inflict pain upon others. As I read more of your postings it is clear that you want to have your cake and eat it too. I may be wrong, but that is how it is coming off. You can make different choices, you can be single and have sex and 'fun' with all the men you want, why not just do that? its apparently what you want.