My T was a totally different nationality, size, shape, skin color, and background than I and like that of my SAbuser.

I think people are people and it's the person one is conversing with that matters; how well you interact with and get to know them and they you as who you are. Everyone has the same emotions and types of needs and problems but many times, coming from different backgrounds was very helpful as we had to go slower, pay more attention, work harder, etc.