It's not all your fault, it takes two to tango. Have you asked him if he feels respected by you? if he says no, ask him how you can show him. Does he know how you need to be loved? it usually comes down to a lack of communication. If he still acts like an *** after you share with him that his behavior is hurtful, you may want to consider finding a T to help you guys out. Marriage is hard, I dont have to tell you that. Dont be so hard on yourself and keep doing the right thing, even when he is a butt.