I don't think you become a me, you already are one when you're born. It's more like uncovering the me you started with that got bent in growing up. So, T's help and influence with either uncovering who you are or you feel more blanketed :-)

My T wore her wedding band and I didn't wear mine but I loved the look of my T's hand so started wearing my wedding ring on days I had T because I wanted to be like her. What I liked about her was her quiet strength; not any of her lifestyle choices (which one doesn't really get to know that much about; so she was married too, if she'd been divorced, she wouldn't have urged me to divorce if we weren't talking about my marriage) one chooses what one wants/need to talk about based on what you want to uncover. So her marriage/relationships weren't in there, either way.

It's more about your character, not your lifestyle choices. Sure if she's a happy person you're going to probably feel happier in her presence or think she's too happy if you're depressed, etc. but it works both ways, equally; T's are open to us, it's a conversation/two way street.

T's like themselves and choices for those selves for their own lives but aren't in the business of trying to get other people to be like they are at all. They want you to find your self (and you have to do the finding, they're just along for the ride) and what fits You for you and your life.