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Elysium · May 30, 2010, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

thank you. But, what is so terrible about going to see the neighborhood just to see what it looks like? Bt and one other T had therapy IN their houses, so why can't I drive by Kt's house just once?

Rainbow ~

Wanting to drive by your T's house to feel closer to them is not in and of itself a terrible thing. The thing is though, you know you wouldn't be driving through "just to see the neighborhood". You know you'd actually be driving through to find your T's house.

So other T's of yours have held therapy out of their homes. That was obviously okay with them and they felt that they were secure doing this. They had boundaries in place to protect themselves and felt comfortable treating out of their home.

Your current T does not share that same security and chooses to NOT practice out of her home, which is her right. For you to know that it has already made her uncomfortable to look her up....and still be considering violating T's boundaries she has in place for her own comfort and security is not okay.

You're not just passing through....you are violating your T's boundaries having to do with trust and privacy. Boundaries which she obviously cares about. The therapist/client relationship is based on trust. When you violate her PERSONAL boundaries, she can't trust you.

Why would you want to give her a reason to fear you? Is this a way of sabotaging your relationship with her....to protect yourself from having to work through your own issues?