Look, i've certainly googled my T. Everyone has. People on these boards have even gone further.

I think you are dead on that the issue is not driving by her house, but rather the compulsion to do it. The stuff underlying that compulsion is the key. I would make that very clear when talking to your T.

I definitely would strongly urge you to not drive by her house if at all possible. When people say they are scared that does merit more than a little consideration and I think, like others, that it might result in a very negative outcome for you.

But I do understand the compulsion. Completely. It's so hard to find release from that, even equipped with loads of self-discipline, it's hard.

Every minute, every hour that you don't do this is a big victory that you can build on and say "I did it! I made it an hour" That hour will turn into a day, then a week....

Do you have anything that might help you in the interim? Distraction techiniques? Maybe exercising (god I hate that, but it works) adopting a pet? Bringing something brand new in your life? Medication that might alleviate the desire? Cleaning (god I hate that too)?

If not, I would recommend just continuing to post here. I, for one, certainly understand.

This will be okay. I have every faith that you can do what's best for yourself and your T.

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