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Originally Posted by Perna
marjan, my T taught me the difference between "like" (what we feel for a friend and those we enjoy being with) and "love" and it made a lot of difference in how I viewed being with my stepmother. I loved her but didn't have to like her because I didn't get to choose her like I do my friends and intimates.
Think about a friend and ask yourself 3 things you like about that friend and then apply those 3 characteristics to your mum. They won't fit  No need to feel guilty; there are all sorts of people out there we don't want to be with and our mums just happen to be one. You're a wonderful daughter though because you take her out anyway (because you love her) and don't say anything about her bad behavior, etc. But there's no reason whatsoever to feel guilty! They're just not our friends! |
Thank you Thank you thank you Perna.....I don't know how to say thanks....you made me cry....That's so true, there is a fine line between liking somebody and loving her....I do love my mum....I want all good things to happen to her.....but I do not like lots of things about her....
Like couple of months ago, she made me to call my dad's business partner.....I hate that guy...he is a total A.H., and I didn't see any reason to talk to him....and of course, I got into a big argue with him which I knew ahead of time...and that's not my style....because mum can't control her anger and can't deal with stuff without getting emotional and angry, she drags us into fighting too.....I simply hate that....but yet I do that because I have to back her up, because I have to protect her....but do I like it? NO!
Thanks again
Marjan