It seems to me that you have this unhelpful belief that if you do not want to spend time with your mother then you are a bad daughter. If your mother is not pleasant to be around, why would you want to? If you wanted to be around unpleasant people, that might be a problem but this seems quite normal to me.

If it helps, I do not like my mother. She is a miserable person. I haven't talked to her in almost twenty years. You at least are talking to your mother. Not liking spending time with your mother who is unpleasant does not make you a bad daughter. Not liking spending time with her and then choosing to not see or talk to her in twenty years might make you a bad daughter.