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Originally Posted by AkAngel
It seems to me that you have this unhelpful belief that if you do not want to spend time with your mother then you are a bad daughter. If your mother is not pleasant to be around, why would you want to? If you wanted to be around unpleasant people, that might be a problem but this seems quite normal to me.
If it helps, I do not like my mother. She is a miserable person. I haven't talked to her in almost twenty years. You at least are talking to your mother. Not liking spending time with your mother who is unpleasant does not make you a bad daughter. Not liking spending time with her and then choosing to not see or talk to her in twenty years might make you a bad daughter.  |
She's my mother, that's my duty to spend time with her....she loves me unconditionally....nobody else on earth have that love towards me.....that's why I have to spend time with her....she went through hell to give birth to me....the story of my birthday is so famous between my large extended family....that's why I feel guilty even not wanting to be with her....but I do call her....I take her out....and I don't say anything to stuff and things that she does and I absolutely don't like them....
Honesty, I think you should pick up a phone and call your mum now.....20 years is a long time.....I think it's time to forgive....one thing I found out with mum, I should not talk that much and follow her....I don't like it, but this is what it is....I can't change her....but I can control myself!
thanks
Marjan