imapatient - I disagree with you. Rainbow said "I looked up more than the average person would."

The T is setting boundaries and decent ones. Not all T's are computer savy and many do not have enough time to sit on the computer and have all their information removed from search engines or pay a company to do it, etc. Many of those search engines also list spouses and children living in the home, ages, cost of home, etc.

T is saying "this is not appropriate and stop." What if she has children living there? What if she has disabled adults living with her? That is her private business.

Again -- you say this isn't a boundary violation? Rainbow said she "went further than the average person."

And it is a boundary violation because Rainbow IS TRYING to get involved with her T's life. It is her intent. She stated she even printed out the Mapquest directions after T said stop.

You think it is wrong for the T to be scared? For what I see, Rainbow is fairly new to this T. She has extreme attachment issues. Sometimes, people with attachment issues go beyond normal behavior when they get angry or upset to "get what they what." There have been plenty of cases of T's killed by clients.

This T has every right to be scared and to state that. It is not about withholding her feelings, when a client's behavior MAY jeopardize the treatment. It has nothing to do with being a new or old T. It has to do with privacy and respect and choices. Rainbow also has the choice to be respectful and find other ways do deal with this issue or to break boundaries.

Im hoping she chooses to be respectful and stop looking up T and not drive by.