Looking up anyone on the Internet does not tell us about the person, only about choices the person has made for their lifestyle. One cannot get closer to a person from the Internet, only from being with a person one-on-one and talking with them personally.

Rainbow, you didn't learn anything at all from seeing her house. Have you heard of the book The Millionaire Next Door? Your T may be fabulously wealthy but have allergies :-) and thus not like the country and lots of land. Someone else might own the house, she could be just renting and/or a relative have given her the house to live in.

Wanting to know something about someone you care about is very natural/healthy but not asking them what you want to know about them is not. That's why there is a feeling of guilt and like we should "confess" when we search for our T's. Concentrating on your T though and what you want to know about her instead of on your own issues is not healthy and I do not think giving into a "compulsion" to act out and cross clear boundaries is helpful to you. Where will you set the boundary to not cross any more boundaries? Feelings are not in charge! Your decisions and actions are in charge.