It seems like I've started an interesting debate here! I can't respond to all now, but:

traction: yes, the googlemaps was enough for me. I also have some interesting genealogy in MY OWN FAMILY-a new lead to follow up, so I am doing legitimate detective work to my heart's content right now. I love it and it's the best distraction ever!

Just want to say one more thing. My T seems to be an open person. She's volunteered info. about her kids already. I think she will answer my questions. And for all who said: Yes, my compulsion to do this is what's important. I know that! I have a lot to talk about tomorrow, plus I do the collage.