That sounds like a great conversation, LovebirdsFlying. I remember when I was having my shoulder pain and was in excruciating pain such that I couldn't sleep and when my husband woke to go pee I told him we had to go to the ER right away and he explained that we were going to wait until he'd finished sleeping.

The husbands and other care-takers get to practice good self-care too, so they can help us; it's like the airline oxygen speech, get it on yourself and then help others/children.

My husband inspires me, I remember what he's like (just like I use to think about what my T was saying/doing) and that helps me when I'm in a hard place of my own.