This is an interesting discussion. I think it is possibly difficult to understand what went on in the session without being there. Did she really make the focus of the session her feelings? That she was scared? Having known you, you really arent a scary type but maybe she mentioned that having a client do these things would scare her. All said, I think she probably did focus on you and the whats and whys of this compulsion for you. It may lead to stalker behavior, but my sense it that (and you said it, too) it is some kind of mommy longing. When I was doing that with desk-t, there is NO DOUBT that it was mommy longing. I didnt realize it at the time.

Does talking about the compulsion takes the power out of it? Allow you to have some more control?

Another thought, we dont always have control or are savvy enough to know how to control what is out there about ourselves on the internet. So, is it really fair game if its out there? Or are we responsible to set boundaries?

I think you are working on this, Rainbow, and I SO understand you and I have to talk to myself not to dig on the internet.

A story: We moved a few years ago to where we live now. A woman from my old neighborhood who is, well, odd (for lack of a better word) and someone to stay clear of sent me a facebook message that went like this:

"Blue, Ive been following what you are doing on FB. I sent you numerous friend requests but you dont respond. I see you friending everyone else and chatting with everyone but me. Dont think I dont know that. I can friend (names of my teenage girls) and go in that way. Why dont you friend me?"

It freaked me out a little. I have no intention of friending her. She is definitely a stalker type. Not in a harmless way. She could gossip viciously about me and my kids and make stuff up. I got my boys (computer savvy) to set up my facebook so no one who isnt a "friend" can see my home page- even if they look up my name. If someone looks me up, I wont come up. But I never would have been able to figure out how to do that if I didnt have facebook fanatic teenagers who know their way around. Of course, I never responded to her at all.

My point is that even if info is out there on the internet, it doesnt mean its all fair game and the person knows or wants it all out there. This woman over stepped boundaries and even told me so (jeez!).