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Originally Posted by Moosetracks
The thing I find disturbing is not your desire, but your actions. After your T said you were scaring her, you continued to look at her house, etc. And the only thing you seemed to care about was satisfying your desire....not your relationship with T, because if you did care about that and you knew you scared her, you would have worked much harder to avoid continuing your behavior.
What do you think would happen if next time you went to session and told your T you googled her house and located it and saw it. How do you think that would affect your relationship? Part of the trust is broken and some T's would terminate.
Desire is one thing; behaviors are another.
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Rainbow did not drive by the house. She looked at it online and then distracted herself in a positive manner by doing other things...partly because she DOES care more about than just satisfying her desire, or she never would have posted here in the first place. Rainbow is worried about scaring her therapist and is trying hard not to cross her T's boundaries. Things are not always so black and white!
Rainbow needs to talk to her T about what she has been feeling and what has been going on inside of her as she has been facing this challenge. That is what therapy is for. It sounds like Rainbow's T is very professional and understanding and should be able to understand that although Rainbow resisted the urge to drive by her house, she did look it up on Google. I would think any experienced therapist would understand this urge and work with the client appropriately as she deals with her feelings surrounding this.