OMG I'm looney. The first time I read your post I thought "What?" but I get it now. I'm slow sometimes.

Last I talked to my ex, he said that he now has a way of sending me money for child support, but he will also look into his rights to our son. I'm like fine whatever, enjoy the hunt when you don't know where to look.
But I'm still standing my ground on the whole, you wanna see our son, stop by the courthouse first.
And if he shows up here I'll lock the house down and call the cops and have previous police reports in my hand when they get here. And if the cops don't take care of it, I have plenty of people that are willing to take care of him for me (gotta love being a hillbilly). Therefore he will be taken care of one way or another. And if the cops know who some of these people are that are willing to take care of my ex, they will take care of him for HIS safety.
My only worry is, what would all this do to our son. Guess if something goes down, he'll be the next one in therapy. But maybe I can talk him into going into his room and playing with his toys until it's safe.

As for the whole attoreny things, we didn't have councel for out divorce. But I'm in school to become a paralegal, so I know a little more about the law, especially my state's law, then he does. I also know how to research it to find what I need. I do believe I have the upper hand in this.

But thanks everyone for your advise. I'll take more from anyone else if they have any.