Very well put, Rainbow. Im glad you posted. I think you really hit the nail on the head about boundaries with bt and also with dt for me. Her boundaries were what she needed to do for her (that is what she told me once) and it wasnt that I couldnt respect that, but her infinite strict boundaries seemed counterproductive to therapy. It didnt consider me or what I needed. Just how far could I go in therapy with her if I was always walking on eggshells? No wonder I wanted so much more from her, I just wanted her to show she cared for ME and saw ME. Just like it was at the scene of the crime.

How unfortunate that bt did this kind of therapy. Now, you know Im not dismissing all of the good she did, but her boundaries were somewhat like a desk without a desk. It seems like she just didnt have the tools to know what to do with you when you stayed in her office and setting a rigid boundary was all she knew to do. Im sorry about this and I really feel for you, I really do, having gone through all of this with dt, too.