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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I am very happy with my T, Moosetracks. I'm sorry you're so angry right now, and I wish you peace.
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Actually I am not angry.
I am disgusted that you think it is ok to "scare your T" and then continue the behaviors --trying to justify the choice you made to continue look at your T's house and invade her space.
You have very little remorse for your choice of behaviors. You feel better that you saw her house and you will talk about it after doing it.
You knew what you were doing and you choose to do it anyway. You had very little respect for another person -- your T.
And I am disgusted that many people here do not see your behaviors a problem-- even though you "scared your T."
It may be only a "google house image" but it's the disrespect for the boundaries and personal space of another individual.
As one other poster said (I believe Mike) -- "
Caring about someone means you do what is right for them, not what will make you feel good, that is the definition of being selfish. "
And whether your T drops you or not, is really not the point.
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Moose - I'm curious to know what's being stirred up in you from all this. It seems as though you want to "win" an argument, but there does not need to be a winner or loser. Or, that you are trying desperately to be heard, understood, have your points validated.
What Rainbow chooses to do or how she feels is hers to own. Certainly exploration is worthwhile, but I find that I would be more receptive to "difficult to hear" feedback when it's delivered in a caring and compassionate way.
Just curious if this topic (or even just the general tone of the exchange, regardless of the actual content) has stirred up something within your own life that is helping you to feel so passionate about it, that may be worth exploring.
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I think in general I have a problem with people who ignore the boundaries of others for their own gain. Period.
Most people who abuse others or harm others fall into this category and do not see a problem in breaking boundaries. Boundaries and personal space do not matter to them.