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imapatient · 04:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Moosetracks

Actually I am not angry.

I am disgusted that you think it is ok to "scare your T" and then continue the behaviors --trying to justify the choice you made to continue look at your T's house and invade her space.

You have very little remorse for your choice of behaviors. You feel better that you saw her house and you will talk about it after doing it. You knew what you were doing and you choose to do it anyway. You had very little respect for another person -- your T.

And I am disgusted that many people here do not see your behaviors a problem-- even though you "scared your T."

It may be only a "google house image" but it's the disrespect for the boundaries and personal space of another individual.

As one other poster said (I believe Mike) -- "Caring about someone means you do what is right for them, not what will make you feel good, that is the definition of being selfish. "

And whether your T drops you or not, is really not the point.

I think in general I have a problem with people who ignore the boundaries of others for their own gain. Period.

Most people who abuse others or harm others fall into this category and do not see a problem in breaking boundaries. Boundaries and personal space do not matter to them.

Moosetracks, I think you've gone off-topic with this thread, and are posting to serve (unconsciously) some personal needs of your own (your personal grief is clear to see) rather than--as it's coming across--trying to contribute to helping Rainbow or the issue in general. You are very angry about what you perceive as significant boundary violations by Rainbow. Whatever is going on with you, you're revealing a serious personal issue; you're obviously in great, great pain, too. Rainbow started the whole thread about the great fear she has that she's done something so horrible; she was in great distress. Your tone isn't helping anyone; maybe they're making things more difficult. Regardless, I think you're, though unintentionally, inappropriately using this thread to serve a topic of your own at this point. I think you should start a new thread to address the very real issues surrounding boundaries that concern you and not take this thread of Rainbow's any further away from where it began. That way we can help you and get your story and views from where you're coming from rather than you receiving a negative reaction as is happening here. You need support and advice I think, but this thread isn't going to get that for you. Your own thread is the place for that.