Have any of you read the book "The Five Love Languages"?

Well, even if you haven't - imagine this: my husband's "Love Language" appears to be Acts of Service, where he will do little nice things for me, like do the dishes, pick up dog crap, fix my car, fold laundry, stuff like that. That's how he shows his love. And it might be inferred that that is how he receives love. Possibly.

I suck at housework. I hate it. This house is a dump. It looks like crap. The bathrooms don't get cleaned, not even weekly sometimes. It's disgusting. He does the dishes - he says he likes to because he likes to soak his hands in the water. Yeah, right. He picks up the dog crap outside. He takes out the garbage to the street. I do a horrible job at laundry, stuff ends up stained, wrinkeld, not put away until days later. The house is just generally a MESS.

Could this perhaps be one reason why our marriage is not up to par?

I know I should do housework "out of love" but how do I get past the fact that I just plain HATE IT and it feels like slave labor and I despise every minute and every second that I am doing it? How do I make it feel like love? It doesn't, to me.