I do housework when I "have" to (someone coming over or I'm moving :-) but my T pointed out that most people don't enjoy housework so I'm probably not that alone in having trouble doing it.

My husband and I made a pact early in the relationship; I'd cook, he'd do dishes. But even that doesn't hold up as, if I don't want to cook, he'll take me out or we'll order delivery and he does the dishes when he feels like it, which doesn't necessarily fit in with when the cook needs the dishes :-) So, the end result is sometimes he cooks (he makes a nice breakfast each morning which I may/may not eat) and sometimes I do the dishes because they're in my way/bothering me. We each do our own laundry, I do the household towels, dish towels, rugs, etc.

Our relationship is built on a give and take; if someone doesn't like some level of public mess, they clean it up; we each have our own private areas, piles of books and papers, etc. that the other usually doesn't mess with.

We had a large Mother's Day party here and I stashed all the cords and chargers to the electric lawn equipment, computers, cell phones, etc. under a table in a bin with other "stuff" (that I hadn't cleaned up in ages, just put in the bin and under the corner table out of the way) and the next week, I gave away that bin, thinking it was just my stray exercise equipment and parts to my wii/Fit I sold to my girlfriend. I'm so glad I sold it to my girlfriend, had to call her and go pick the bag of chargers up, LOL

No one should have to do all the clean up (unless they truly like to do that) and I've noticed my husband is better at some of it than I am which makes me feel strange. I remember the first time he spilled his milk on the living room carpet and was 15 minutes and thorough cleaning it up; I would have just thrown a few paper towels at it, blotted it for a few seconds and been done :-) Don't forget we are all raised differently by our parents and have different backgrounds that can still influence some of our responses. My stepmother was extremely strict and I'm still revolting from her "Army" lock-step attitude and things being done completely and perfectly at a particular time and place. My husband, on the other hand, was paid to wash dishes (it was a job he had as a teenager) and was the eldest of four boys so did babysitting and general cleanup as part of his way of life so truly doesn't mind it, views it as part of life.

I made a collage of different chores and "free" days, numbered each area of the collage poster board and bought a pair of dice. I rolled it first thing each morning and decided I had to do whatever I rolled that day for half an hour. There was "cat" and "kitchen" and "bath" and "laundry" and "filing" and "dollar store" (I had to go and buy one item there and bring it back and use it to improve the household :-) and "general cleanup" (like vacuuming). I still have the board but decided, after a week or two, that I could do such obvious, simple work for half an hour a day without having it dictated to me in any fashion (anti-stepmother ways :-) and, to a certain extent, I still do. It certainly helped me feel a bit more connected to cleaning as part of my daily life.