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Originally Posted by pegasus
I have been on these forums a long, long time and it is such a wonderful and diverse place.
Offering support is an art (imo) it does take practice and indeed I have got it wrong many times myself in the past. It is a learning experience. Learn. Share. Grow. As the Psych Central motto says.
Use PC to help yourself and others, support the posts that you feel you can positively contribute to. Being supportive means helping a person along their journey with comfort and wisdom. These two words can mean so much, 'comfort' what many of us were lacking in childhood and now also. 'Wisdom' words that can move us forward, yes that can include advice but without thrusting it down someones throat. It's not what you say but how you say it.
It does not help anyone at all to reply to something that we are triggered by. We feel bad, the original poster feels bad and no good comes from it other than hard feelings.
Also, don't forget PC has wonderful tools for self-care. The ignore feature means you can stop seeing the body of posts of someone that triggers you. Just go to the members profile and next to 'send message' is a tab saying, 'User lists' click on that then click, 'Ignore' Job done and then you can get on with enjoying Psych Central, supporting others and asking for support.
Happy supporting! 
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thanks.
another thing you can do is if you arent sure about your replys the moderators can help you. Im not always sure about my own posts/replys so I have the moderators checking all my posts/replys first that way both me and the moderators can catch any problems with my replys before they get seen by others.
Yesterday I saw a post somewhere forget where it was but someone didnt realize they have the ignore thingy pegasas talked about, and someone else took time to explain it. then I saw a sticky on the eating disorder forum that had right in it how to use the ignore thingy. I pmed one of the moderators with a suggestion of putting a sticky about the ignore thingy on all the forum boards that way how to use it is right there in the forum boards we are reading right then and so that those that dont visit all the forums will learn about the ignore thingy. not to mention this is the 4th or 5th time this week (during the past 7 days that is) this topic has come up.