i'm so thankful to hear that you're there for your daughter. she's definately not had an easy go of things. speaking from personal experience (i was adopted) the abandonment issue was HUGE for me when i was her age. i don't mean to sound like i'm minimizing the molestation issue by any means cause i'm not at all. (i went through that by her age as well) it's just the abandonment issue strikes the very core of the individual who's gone through this.

i would like to encourage you to get the book called "The Primal Wound" by nancy newton verrier ph.d. i would encourage you to read it first then give it to your daughter to read. it spells EVERYTHING about the abandonment issue. it's an incredibly validating book. it's a very easy read as well. as well as quite fascinating. i know it helped me immensely to begin to overcome my issue with it.

it will always be an issue for me i'm sure, but it doesn't carry quite the same impact it once did since i read the book. the issue is hard for one to speak about since it came at a time before we had words to express ourselves. i'd encourage very strongly this book for anyone with this issue. it's simply amazing.

it's awesome that you're there for her, and concerned for her well being. many don't have or didn't have such a good support system at that time in their lives. even though she may fight what you're doing for her at times i'm sure later she will find the appreciation for your efforts and caring. i'm sure you won't, but i'd encourage you not to give up on her. i know it can be an exhausting process.

the way she is choosing to act out right now i would also like to encourage you to take this up with her t. these are apparent warning signs that something is definately up with her. (obviously) i could carry on and on here, but i'll stop for now. i hope the very best for you and your daughter. it'll be a long journey, but the destination is a beautiful place. safe travels, and take care.