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Jun 01, 2010, 02:59 PM
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6. There is a great difference between dreadful ruminations about what awful things might happen and thinking how to prevent, minimize, or cope with real potential problems. The former is useless, depressing, exhausting, and may even be self-fulfilling. The latter is wise and reassuring. Keep in mind that many of our fears never come true. Desirable outcomes are due to the laws of behavior, not due to our useless "worry." Unwanted outcomes are also lawful, and not because we didn't "worry."
This is my achilles heel. Rumination. I'm getting better about it, but I am a worrier at times. I can catastrophize with the best of them. My sister is having her bone marrow transplant this evening. I could easily ruminate over all the things that might go wrong for her over the next few weeks. But there's not a darned thing I can do about it except pray.
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